I believe that all of our lives have purpose and meaning.
I believe that we are deeply interconnected with each other and with the Source of Life.
I believe that as parents, we can help our children develop a personality, or identity, that is an accurate reflection of their soul.
I believe that we can help our children stay deeply connected to who they really are.
I believe that our true nature is lovingness and willingness.
I believe that we can help our children stay connected to their true lovingness and willingness.
I created the Psychospiritual Parenting Course to bridge psychospiritual understandings with tangible practices and process to help parents be MORE loving and MORE willing to have the family life you dream of.
I aim to respond to their needs and feelings, their preferences and interests, their passions and callings, in ways that help them stay deeply connected with who they really are.
I know that their experiences will deeply shape their core beliefs about themselves. I want them to know who they really are.
I want them to grow up deeply accepting of themselves; free from internalised ways of thinking that cause shame and guilt and self-judgment.
I want them to be free to follow their divine inspirations, so that they can do what they’re here to do.
I’m willing to keep on immersing myself in my own psychospiritual journey, one by one releasing the painful judgments and thought patterns that I acquired growing up in the culture that I did.
I’m willing to live increasingly from my soul, as my personality increasingly becomes an accurate reflection of that.
As I become more who I really am, I’m freed to increasingly facilitate their unfolding.
I learnt to value my needs, honour my feelings, and release old harsh internalised self-judgments, because I wanted my children to grow up valuing their needs, honouring their feelings and free from harsh internalised voices.
I follow my inspirations, callings and divine downloads, from the most small to the most large, because I know that my children are learning from me every day.
I believe that parenting is one of the most IMPORTANT and INFLUENTIAL things we ever do.
Our responses shape our child’s personality, and the extent to which it accurately reflects their soul, and the capacity they have to share their unique gifts with the world.
That’s why I’m passionate about Psychospiritual Parenting.
All the daily parenting challenges are about SO MUCH MORE than wanting your child to cooperate.
Your actions are profoundly important.
YOU are profoundly important.
I stand for a world where each human being is supported to be the amazing, unique, beautiful, loving, willing, being that we each are.
You may find it easy to remember your child's soulfulness and divinity when they were first born, or at special moments, but what about at these other times:
when they always want to choose where everyone sits at the dinner table
when they keep hitting their baby brother
when they cry whenever they're separate from you
when they say "I hate you!"
The extent to which we can clearly see our child's soul profoundly affects the extent to which her personality represents her soul
AND each parenting challenge we come across is a flag to see where the personality we developed doesn't represent our soul.
As we help our child become who she really is in the world,
So we are invited to increasingly become who we really are, freeing ourselves from who we thought we were.
As parents and children, we each have a unique soul.
And yet, we have similar qualities.
That is, our LOVINGNESS and our WILLINGNESS.
You could call these our LOVE and our WILL.
Our lovingness gets covered over by painful thoughts and feelings (especially those related to disconnection, loss and grief).
Our willingness channel gets silted up with painful thoughts and feelings (particularly those connected with powerlessness, frustration and lack of autonomy).
Help ourselves increasingly FEEL deeply loving and compassionate towards our child, whatever they are doing.
Help our child/ren feel increasingly compassionate.
Help ourselves be deeply connected with our willingness and our not-willingness;
Help our children be deeply connected with their willingness and not-willingness.
As we do that, we increasingly create an inner marriage of lovingness and willingness within, able to respond deeply compassionately AND clearly.
In doing this, we help our children have a beautiful inner marriage between their lovingness and willingness, so that they can be deeply clear AND compassionate.
The relationship between soul and personality;
(I trained and worked as a psychospiritual psychotherapist throughout the 90's)
Child and parent development;
(I have a Ph.D. from Cambridge University and was a Research Fellow and University Lecturer)
Parenting;
(I've been an Aware Parenting Instructor since 2005 and am one of only 14 Level Two Aware Parenting Instructors in the world)
Consciousness-as-cause models;
(I trained with The Field Project for 7 years and was a Field Project Certified Facilitator)
I bring all these (and lots more) together, along with 19 years of my own parenting journey (my daughter is 19 and my son is 14), to create Psychospiritual Parenting.
My aim in this Course is to give you not only an understanding of your child/ren (and yourself), but also tangible and practical things you can do to help you both on your psychospiritual journeys.
And that in essence, IS the Psychospiritual Journey - being informed by Soulful values that help you feel more deeply connected with your compassion, resulting in your willingness to take action and respond to your child/ren and yourself in ways that fit with your deepest values.
This is reconnecting with the Consciousness in Life, through lovingness and willingness.
- All the material available in video and written formats and half of it in audio format too!
- Deeply compassionate and supportive Facebook group
- Choose between accessing most of the material within the FB group or on the course site
- Access to any future live rounds in the FB group
- 30 hours of content
- Lifetime access to the course and any new material added
- Self-paced - tailor this to YOUR lifestyle!
- There are two types of trainings - prerecorded and recored live. The 16 recorded LIVE TRAININGS include:
- PART ONE - Soul and Meaning:
- The Psychospiritual Approach: What is it, why is it important, and what does it mean in tangible terms in your parenting? What your intentions are for the Course.
- Children as Messengers. How we can learn to hear the messages and cooperate with them.
- Mirroring our child’s Soul so their personality reflects their soul. Identity. Who they believe themselves to be is deeply affected who you believe them to be and who they need to be to be loved. Helping our children be loving and willing by seeing their lovingness and willingness.
- PART TWO - Our Children’s Lovingness and Willingness:
- Offering a Loving Environment - connection, compassion, empathy and attunement.
- Helping children stay connected with their Lovingness: Understanding Love-Hurts and Healing Love-Hurts through listening to sadness and grief, releasing loss and offering reconnection.
- Offering a Willing Environment - choice, autonomy and agency.
- Helping children stay connected with their Willingness: Will-Hurts and Healing Will-Hurts through listening to frustration and rage, releasing powerlessness and offering reparative power
- PART THREE - Psychospiritual ReParenting:
- Adjusting our personality so that it reflects our Soul more accurately - seeing where we adapted to fit in and belong - releasing what was never ours and reclaiming what we couldn’t feel. Challenging moments in parenting show us these moments.
- Offering ourselves a Loving Environment - The Divine Mother and Inner Loving Mother.
- Healing our Love-Hurts with the Inner Loving Presence Process.
- Offering ourselves a Willing Environment - giving ourselves choice, autonomy and agency - The Divine Father and Inner Loving Father
- Healing our Will-Hurts with the Inner Loving Presence Process
- PART FOUR - Parenting Practices:
- Connecting with our Lovingness, whatever our child is doing.
- Our willingness helps our child be willing - eliciting cooperation through willingness and staying connected with our willingness.
- Neo No and Loving Encouragement and Loving Limits in parenting and life
- Final practices and processes.